Go on, get out there and listen to your people. That’s good, but not enough.

To gain respect (and credibility) you need to hear what people are saying, understand what they mean - and then let them know you’ve understood.

Nobody really expects to get what they want all the time, and people who’ve been heard will be pretty tolerant. However, people who’ve only been listened to but not heard will work hard to undermine you.

So be bold.

 Listen actively and check your understanding. 

People will love the care you show as you risk getting it wrong. They won’t hold it against you, but welcome the opportunity to correct your understanding. They’ll also be far more prepared to understand your position too.

 

When was the last time you risked exposing your lack of understanding to a stakeholder, colleague or customer?

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Simple…

#1: Get a big bold vision that will change the world in which you wish to lead.

#2: Find a way to articulate that vision, so people get it, loud and clear.

#3: Motivate, encourage and cajole people to go all-in.

#4: Remain acutely aware of everything around you, adjust and keep going.

Are you a leader, a manager, or a mouse?

Your choice.

PS: Nowt against mice, they’re cute.

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As an investor, I speculate – wildly. 

Making decisions that would leave most people weak at the knees. 

Before I place my bet, I mitigate the risks. Researching, thinking, learning. Turning over stones, looking around corners.

Then I place my bet, and leave others thinking that I’m mad. Thing is, they don’t know what I know.

What I’ve learned – to succeed, you don’t do what everyone else is doing. You don’t think like everyone else and you don’t feel like everyone else.

This applies to every walk of life. 

In your career, it pays to be different. 

To feel, think and act differently from everyone else. And you do this, while knowing more than everyone else and mitigating the risks. 

Your moves appear reckless, but you’ve stacked the odds in your favour.

 

Be bold not reckless. And, don’t be boring – that never pays.

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You can’t change your personality. 

Rubbish. Easy as pie.

Don’t be fooled. Psychiatrists would have you believe that personality and identity are synonymous, and thus, personality is hard to change.

Nonsense. It’s a trap, don’t believe them.

Personality is just the behavioural wrapper you choose to surround your identity with. Just change the wrapper, you don’t gave to change yourself.

Think about it. 

Those behaviours you want to see in your life, have you used them before? Bet you have.

In which case, you can use them again.

What might take a little effort, is polishing them and making them a habit. But, if you choose, this too can be easy.

 

Game to give it a try?

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One of the reasons most people struggle for influence, is that they try too hard.

Subtlety is everything.

When you try to influence, people can see it. And if they can’t, they’ll likely smell something is off, that you’re up to no good.

Instead of seeking influence, aim to help people to make great decisions, to advance their agenda - while hopefully, moving you towards your goals as well.

This means you have to be open, honest, well-meaning and creative.

 

I think this might be called collaboration. What would you call it?

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In my experience in life, and as a coach, the most incredible personal transformations are born from total collapse.

At the darkest hour, the mind, and heart, opens to new possibilities - like never before.

Why?

Many reasons, but chief among these is that the individual is ready to give up on their old ways, because they have failed.

Then, with the right support, new beliefs and habits can be created, and a new person is born.

The good news is, you don’t have to wait for a disaster to get moving on creating a new life!

 

What are you waiting for?

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If you need more gravitas, reflect on an area in your life in which you have total confidence, because this is where you will exude gravitas. 

In that area, you will know exactly what to do, how to react to others, and you’ll be calm and self-assured - confident.

Pull it apart. Why is it that you have that high level of confidence? Is it skills, experience, knowledge, relationships? Why are you able to convey high levels of gravitas?

Then ask, how can you apply these insights to another part of your life? Or better, to all parts of your life?

A little hint. Once you have substance, gravitas is mainly a matter of mindset.

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Sometimes, I find myself drifting, not making progress. Usually, overthinking - or to be honest, over-complicating matters. Oh yes, and easily distracted. 

This is a problem, and a waste of time.

When I catch myself stuck like this, the best solution is fast action. I think of three things I can do in the next 30 minutes, and get moving fast. 

Related or unrelated to the task I’m stuck on. What matters, is flipping back into action mode, making progress on something, anything.

When done, how can I break through the blockage? Still not sure? Go do another three things.

Usually, the reason I am stuck is because of my mindset. I use action to shift my mindset, fast.

 

How do you get moving again, when you are stuck?

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In Adlerian psychology, we cultivate a strange yet life changing concept in the lives of our clients. 

It is not their job to get others to agree with them. It is not their job to have others support their projects. It is not their job to educate their children, nor even get their lovers to love them.

This is hardcore personal development. 

It is also extremely liberating, and paves the way for phenomenal success.

Oh, and most certainly, it is not our client’s job to get people to like them.

Can you handle life-changing transformation?

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Integrity and reliability are noble attributes, but come on, don’t bore people to tears! 

Both contribute to trust, and trust is vital in relationships - but so too is interest and enjoyment. Unless people are interested in you, and find your company enjoyable, all the trust in the world is unlikely to get you full marks on the relationship front.

Within bounds, it’s good to surprise people, in a nice way, or a cheeky way. Aim to always have something up your sleeve to keep people on their toes. 

They know you, with integrity and reliability, but they never quite know what’s coming next.

 

Without risking your relationships, how can you be less boring today?

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