You don’t need to do something dramatic to lose your leadership credibility.
Most of the time, it’s the little things.
Small habits. Easy to fall into. Easy to justify. And very hard to give up.
But over time, they erode your influence, dilute your authority, and chip away at the very trust you’re trying to build.
Here are nine of the most dangerous leadership habits I see far too often—and why they’re so seductive.
#1: Needing to be liked
The desire to be liked is understandable. It feels good. It keeps things smooth. But if your primary goal is approval, you’ll avoid the tough conversations, soften your decisions, and lose your edge.
People may like you. But they won’t follow you.
Respect always beats popularity.
To avoid this trap:
✅ Ask yourself before every decision: “Am I doing this to be liked or to lead?”
✅ Practise saying no with clarity and kindness.
✅ Deliver tough messages with warmth and respect.
#2: Craving recognition
Leaders who chase applause are easy to manipulate. If your fuel is external praise, you’ll make the wrong decisions just to be seen. Strong leaders let results speak. Recognition is welcome, but never required.
To avoid this trap:
✅ Set internal metrics for success that don’t rely on praise.
✅ Focus your attention on long-term outcomes, not short-term applause.
✅ Acknowledge your wins privately before seeking external feedback.
#3: Avoiding conflict
Conflict avoided is authority surrendered. Leadership means dealing with discomfort. Tough conversations earn trust, set standards, and show people you care enough to be honest.
Silence might feel safe. But it often comes at the cost of clarity, confidence, and respect.
To avoid this trap:
✅ Prepare for difficult conversations by focusing on the purpose, not the emotion.
✅ Practise saying what you’re thinking earlier and more directly.
✅ Remind yourself: avoidance today creates bigger problems tomorrow.
#4: Over-explaining decisions
It feels like transparency. But it usually signals insecurity. The more you justify, the more people sense you’re not sure.
Clarity doesn’t need a backstory. Say what matters. Then let the silence carry the weight.
To avoid this trap:
✅ State your decision in one or two clear sentences.
✅ Let your tone and body language carry confidence.
✅ Ask for input “after” the decision, not during the justification.
#5: Seeking feedback as reassurance
Feedback is useful when it’s used strategically. But if you’re constantly seeking it to feel safe or validated, you’re in trouble.
Leaders who can’t move without feedback aren’t leading—they’re polling.
To avoid this trap:
✅ Ask for feedback at scheduled times, not in moments of doubt.
✅ Learn to make small decisions without asking anyone.
✅ Develop a self-checklist to validate your actions independently.
#6: Reacting emotionally under pressure
Pressure reveals everything. If you can’t hold composure, you signal weakness. You rattle others. You lose the room.
Your team is always watching your face. In moments of pressure, your presence is your loudest message.
To avoid this trap:
✅ Practise pausing before responding, especially in high-stress moments.
✅ Use breathwork or grounding techniques to stay centred.
✅ Debrief emotionally charged moments in private, not in the moment.
#7: Being “too fair”
Treating everyone the same isn’t fairness. It’s avoidance. Leadership is about understanding what each individual needs to perform.
Fairness is consistency in values, not uniformity in decisions.
To avoid this trap:
✅ Adapt your leadership style to fit the individual, not the group.
✅ Be transparent about expectations and why they differ.
✅ Apply principles fairly, even when outcomes look different.
#8: Believing your title is enough
A title gives you formal authority. That’s it.
Real influence is earned—through behaviour, consistency, and strength of presence. You don’t lead from a business card. You lead by how you show up.
To avoid this trap:
✅ Ask for honest feedback on how your presence is perceived.
✅ Focus on building informal influence through daily actions.
✅ Remember: your credibility is built in every small interaction.
#9: Trying to please everyone
Pleasing everyone dilutes your power.
You soften your message. You second-guess decisions. You confuse your team.
Strong leaders make decisions based on purpose, not popularity. Because when you try to please everyone, you end up leading no one.
To avoid this trap:
✅ Be clear about who you’re serving and why.
✅ Decide what matters most—then stick to it.
✅ Accept that discomfort is part of making strong decisions.
Final thought on Dangerous Leadership Habits
Every leader has blind spots. The real danger comes when those blind spots become habits.
If you see yourself in any of these, don’t beat yourself up. But don’t let them slide either.
Awareness is your edge.
Start by dropping just one of these habits. Then watch how fast your influence sharpens.
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