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Five Suggestions Before You Resign
An interesting call last Friday, the summary of which you may find useful.
Maria has been subscribed to the Influence Blog for several years after seeing me present at Warwick Business School. She finally decided to schedule a call to discuss a challenge that has been bothering her for a while. Afterwards, she described it as “the best discussion she’d had in years. Finally, someone who really understood what she was going through.”
And, I think there are some important points that may help you if you are in a similar position to Maria.
In a moment, I’ll share with you the suggestions I gave her, which will help her to avoid resignation. First, here are the bare bones of her story:
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EPI: Elements of Professional Influence Welcome
Command and Control: Alive and Kicking
Some writers on leadership like to imagine that the ancient leadership style of command and control is obsolete and disappearing fast. Does it feel like that to you? It is certainly less prevalent than it may have been in the 70s and 80s, but it remains pretty vigorous — at least judging by the volume of examples I hear of each month. And perhaps it should be too. Command and control still has a place in leadership and it always will — provided it is done in the right way.
Alive and kicking it is and you should be taking the latter word metaphorically rather than literally!
Below I will share with you three scenarios where I believe command and control is absolutely the right style to adopt. And to help me avoid becoming the friend and mentor to mini-despots the world over, please make sure and also read the criteria for appropriate use of command and control at the end of this article! Read More
Can I Trust You? Are You Sure?
Obvious answer – of course you can! You know that. But, do they?
It is far easier that you may realise for others to distrust you. You don’t need to do anything wrong to see their level of trust in you dip. Indeed, it may be nothing whatsoever to do with you. However, the negative impact on your work will be big.
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Influencing Style Resources
Developing your influencing style flexibility is a key priority if you wish to make the most of your relationships. This resource centre brings together the most effective articles, exercises and videos on this topic, and is freely available to subscribers of the influence blog.
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Five Reasons Why You Should Use More Force
Influence by force is common, especially in the workplace. You may be thinking that it is odious and should not form a part of your influencing approach. Yet, used in the right way, and in the right circumstances, it can dramatically accelerate your progress.
The purpose of this article is to make you stop and think for a moment. I'd like you to recognise the potential, think about the pros and cons, and then learn how to make careful and shrewd choices about your choice of influencing tactic.
Let's start with the reasons why you should at least consider Read More
Positive Influence for Women Summary
Over nearly fifteen years, since deciding to specialise in helping people to become more influential, one of the most frequent questions I’ve been asked on the conference stage and in the conversations following a presentation is…
“How do men and women differ when it comes to influence?”
To be honest, this is usually asked by women. Women seem to be very curious about this topic and my research over the last few years has revealed why they ask this, and what the differences actually are.The Differences Between Men and Women
Of course there are always exceptions but much of the data I have accumulated demonstrates striking differences in:- Networking.
- Influencing Styles.
- Perceptions of Power.
- Use (and Abuse) of Power.
- Influencing Tactics.
Exploring How Women and Men Influence
Read MoreInfluential Leadership: A Leader’s Guide to Getting Things Done
Additional Resources
Influential Leadership is a book about getting things done. It contains a wealth of practical ideas and advice which will help you to take action.
If you want to learn more about the ideas covered, this is a page full of resources which will help you to implement the ideas and become a more influential leader.
This will be a growing resource. Please feel free to send in your ideas of other resources we could include here (email here).
Note: This resource is under construction ahead of publication on 3rd August 2014.
Chapter 1: Building your purpose and passion
- Your Corporate Manifesto.
- Develop Greater Enthusiasm.
- Political Campaign Planning.
- A Healthy Dose of Obsession.
Chapter 2: Power – what makes people influential?
Read MoreDirty Tricks and Office Politics
If you feel bad about office politics that go on around you, you are certainly not alone. In any group of more than one, people will be trying to influence each other and some people use less savoury tactics or dirty tricks, in order to get their way.
Here are some of the more common dirty tricks which people use. Many of them were featured in our best-selling book, 21 Dirty Tricks at Work: How to Win the Game of Office Politics. These are shared here not as a game tip sheet, but rather a preparation for recognising them for what they are (office politics) and then learning how to overcome them with honesty, integrity and a fair degree of assertion.
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