Soldiering on is what we do when times are bad.
Stiff upper lip. Put a brave face on it. Keep your chin up.
Overdone, this can take a heavy toll on our emotions, mental wellbeing, relationships and eventually, health.
But, at what point should you cut your losses and move on? And how? Tough one to answer as each case differs, so here are some pointers to consider.
Firstly, in difficult situations, you have to park your emotions to one side. Until you do this, you will fail to see things as clearly as you need to.
Then nail down the facts of the case. Notice what you can be accurate about, what assumptions and intelligent guesses you are making.
From here, try to fill in as many gaps as possible. Aim for the complete picture, and get as close as you can.
Consult with trusted advisers. Not sympathisers who will pander to your emotions. People who will say it as it is. Have you got the facts straight? Do you have the right/healthy perspective?
Project into the future. What scenarios could play out here? For each, how would it impact on the current situation and you? Which scenario is most likely to emerge?
Now, back to today. If you keep soldiering on, trying to win through, how might that go for you? Alternatively, if you cut and run, what then?
Pressure test your options, with a critical friend, or two.
Sleep on it and then make a provisional decision in the morning. “Should I stay or should I go?”
Live with the decision for a week. Reflect on how you will implement it. What can you do to mitigate the risks? What support will you need? How can you make execution easier? What can you do to stack things in your favour? What might happen when your decision becomes known and how will you handle that reaction?
Then, finally, make a 100% commitment to your decision, plan your moves and swing into action.
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Colin Gautrey
Provocative Coach/Mentor | Specialism: Impact and Influence
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