The Hidden Cost of a Bad Boss
- Many bosses think they’re doing a great job, yet their actions quietly push away their best people.
- This isn’t about extreme bad behaviour—it’s about the subtle mistakes that frustrate, demotivate, and drive talent out the door.
- If you’re feeling disengaged or trapped, you’re not alone. And the good news? You can take back control.
Here’s the ten most common problems I keep hearing about.
1. They Constantly Undermine Their Team’s Autonomy
🚀 How it happens: Micromanagement, excessive oversight, not trusting people to do their jobs.
💡 How to handle it: Build trust through proactive updates, pre-empt concerns before they arise, and subtly reinforce your competence.
2. They Play Favourites—Even If They Don’t Mean To
🚀 How it happens: Unconscious bias, rewarding visibility over real impact, building inner circles.
💡 How to handle it: Focus on strategic visibility—ensure your contributions are recognised in ways that matter.
3. They Give Too Much Advice, Too Little Support
🚀 How it happens: Always telling but never listening, assuming their way is the only way.
💡 How to handle it: Use subtle influence techniques to steer conversations and shape decision-making without triggering resistance.
4. They Fail to Advocate for Their Team
🚀 How it happens: Taking credit, not pushing for promotions, failing to support ideas in leadership meetings.
💡 How to handle it: Stakeholder influence is key—build relationships beyond your boss to gain independent recognition.
5. They Create Unnecessary Chaos & Last-Minute Pressure
🚀 How it happens: Constant firefighting, poor planning, shifting priorities at the last minute.
💡 How to handle it: Influence through clarity—push for structured priorities and subtly reshape expectations.
6. They Don’t Set Clear Expectations
🚀 How it happens: Vague feedback, unclear goals, constantly changing targets.
💡 How to handle it: Take control of the narrative—summarise conversations, confirm priorities, and ensure alignment.
7. They Refuse to Acknowledge Mistakes
🚀 How it happens: Defensiveness, blaming the team, avoiding accountability.
💡 How to handle it: Don’t argue—reframe. Position alternative ideas as expansions of their thinking, not challenges to it.
8. They Ignore the Human Side of Leadership
🚀 How it happens: Focusing only on tasks, never checking in on people, lacking emotional intelligence.
💡 How to handle it: Influence isn’t just strategy—it’s relationship management. Strengthen trust and psychological safety.
9. They Dismiss Ideas Without Considering Them
🚀 How it happens: Quick rejections, closed-minded leadership, fear of change.
💡 How to handle it: Learn to frame your ideas in ways that match their priorities—so they see the value instantly.
10. They Burn Out Their Best People—Then Act Surprised When They Leave
🚀 How it happens: Piling on work, ignoring stress signals, expecting endless loyalty.
💡 How to handle it: Set boundaries strategically—position your workload concerns in ways that resonate with their goals.
Conclusion: What You Can Do Next
- You can’t always change your boss—but you can change how you respond.
- Understanding influence is your best tool—navigate these challenges strategically, not emotionally.
- This is just the start. If you’re serious about mastering influence, stay tuned for more insights in The Gautrey Influence Blog.
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