Private Insights on Influence

It’s Not What You Do…

...It's The Way That You Do It! Behavioural style is a neat wrapper from the inimitable you. It may cloak who you really are, put some polish on your persona, or it may not, depending on how aware and skilled you are. By wearing different behaviours, you may think...

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Diagnosing Relationship Problems

All relationships hit the buffers at some point, both at work and in our personal lives. Our ability to manage these problems when they arise has a significant bearing on our general enjoyment of life, and of the people in our lives. It also has a bearing on our...

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Who Influences You?

Quick as you can, make a list of all the individuals who have a big influence on your life. Split your list into those who have a big influence on your professional life, your personal life, or on both. Next to each, make some notes about what influence these people...

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Readiness to Trust, or Not

How do you trust others? Are you like Luke, who will trust someone until it is proven that he can’t. Or, are you more like Isabel, who holds back her trust until she is absolutely certain. Readiness to trust is a continuum and your preferred position will impact how...

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Becoming Streetwise

Why are you so gullible? I don’t wish to be rude. You may choose to take it that way, but that’s up to you. Today it seems like the majority of people are far too gullible, and that poses a problem. Even the term “fake news” is likely to be sleight-of-hand. Almost all...

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How to Avoid Being Played by the Politics

When it comes to workplace politics, or office politics, it is so easy to get "played" by manipulative individuals - especially if you happen to be a person of integrity. One big trouble is that quite likely, you are making judgements based on what you might be doing...

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